Dear parents, when raising a child, it’s pivotal to follow certain parenthood steps so that you can raise a confident and self-aware individual who will not be afraid of the inevitable challenges in life. Let’s take a look:
Let them to be wrong-if you want to raise an independent child, you have to allow them to be wrong and avoid interfering. Hence, the next time before you help your child with something, ask yourself: “Is my child in danger?” Then, you should also ask yourself whether the child has developed the needed skills like balance and dexterity and whether their basic needs like sleep and food are fulfilled. If the answer is yes, allow the child to do the task on their own.
The 3 rules of homework-First, the child should do the homework, second, all electronic devices should be put aside, and the last, but not least, when the child finishes the homework, they should put their books in the backpack for tomorrow’s class.
H.A.L.T.-this acronym stands for hungry, angry, lonely, and tired. Make sure your child is never any of these because this increases the child’s vulnerability.
Good deeds everyday– teach your child to help others every day, not only during the holidays. Namely, once a week, your child should do some good deed, big or small, it doesn’t matter. For example, they can help a friend in need or help their neighbor clean the fallen leaves from the sidewalk. When you teach your child to focus on others, they will learn what means to be thankful.
Sleeping routine-research has shown that 7-year-old children who don’t have a sleeping routine experience more behavioral problems than those who go to bed every night at the same time.
Let them choose what they’re going to read-children who read for their own pleasure, tend to develop a much broader view of the world. Namely, these children are usually better in social, but in natural sciences as well.
Don’t reward the child with money-if you give your child with money whenever they make their bed, they will expect money from you whenever you ask them to help you with some household chores. You may give the child pocket money for their overall good behavior monthly; however, avoid rewarding them on a daily basis.
Teach them to be brave-if you want your child to be self-assured, you need to teach him to take small, but healthy risks in life, through your own examples. Hence, go to the cinema alone and then explain the child that isn’t something to be ashamed of (a lot of adults don’t want to go to the cinema alone because they find this unpleasant) or allow your child to see you laughing when you realize that you’ve been wearing your shirt backwards all morning. Show them this is nothing to be ashamed of.
Don’t cook special meals for your children– children must learn to eat what their parents eat. It’s more important what the child eats during the day or the whole week, rather than eating one balanced meal.
Be especially careful when the child turns 14-at this age, the influence from the peers reduces and the child begins thinking with “their own heads” instead of blindly following the “leader”. If you want your child to start thinking with his/her own head, talk with them about their friends more frequently, so that you know with who they’re hanging out.
Overcome fears with common sense-if your child is afraid of dogs, don’t cross the street when a dog is approaching you. Demystify the fear and say something like:” Look, a dog! Let’s ask the owner if we can pet it and feel how soft it is!” Also, when the child is about to get vaccinated, be compassionate, but not too emotional and learn to say things like:”Everything will be okay. It will be over in no time.” Avoid saying:”I know that it hurts!”
Lower your voice when you want your child to be quieter– By doing this, you allow the child to focus on what you’re saying.
Care about your needs-if you want to be a better parent, you need to take care about yourself. Parents, who deprive themselves from vacations, food, and fun because of their children, are doing no good to anyone. Moreover, a lot of parents feel guilty because they’re working too much, so they dedicate all of their free time to their children. However, this behavior often results in emotional and physical exhaustion. Learn to spare time for yourself, even if this is a 15-minute warm bath.